Listen up, folks. There’s a dangerous new sex trend going around, and we need to address it, because it’s always good to stay woke about these things.
Apparently, there’s something called “stealthing” happening in bedrooms across the good ol’ U.S. of A., and it’s not cool at all.
Documented in a report by the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law, “stealthing” is when a dude secretly removes his condom during sex without the consent of the lady he is having sex with.
According to the lead author of the report, Alexandra Brodsky, “stealthing” is a form of sexual assault, and that’s not good. Sexual assault is a serious crime, my friends.
Apparently, there are online communities where men encourage one another to “stealth” and take off their condoms during sex, because they think it’s a man’s right to “spread one’s seed.”
“One of my goals with the article, and in proposing a new statute, is to provide a vocabulary and create ways for people to talk about what is a really common experience that just is too often dismissed as just ‘bad sex’ instead of ‘violence,’” Brodsky told the Huffington Post.
To elaborate a little, “stealthing” is bad for many reasons. First off, it can lead to unwanted pregnancy and/or STIs, which are both bad. Additionally, it can cause “emotional, physical, and financial harm” at the same degree as other, more aggressive acts of sexual assault, such as rape. After all, taking your condom off during sex without asking the person you’re sleeping with is a defilement.
Brodsky says that while existing laws don’t cover “stealthing,” a new law would be a good way to address this issue. “At its best, such a law would clearly respond to and affirm the harm victims report by making clear that ‘stealthing’ doesn’t just ‘feel violent’ — it is.”
Just so you know how serious “stealthing” is, a Swiss court convicted a man of rape after he took his condom off during sex without telling his partner. So yeah, if you feel inclined to take the condom off during sex, you should talk to your partner about it first.